My children have both had therapy with my co-parent to work on their adult relationship. At 18, they both chose to distance from my co-parent and their stepparent because of the issues about co-parenting. I am glad to say that at 24 and 28, things have improved. But as both kids have said, nothing can restore what was lost by the fighting during their childhoods. It’s inconvenient and maybe not what you want, but when you force the issue, you are harming the very child you think you are helping." —rachelsa —eok21 —chelseajack —amaya232233 —jsilvachgo —runs_with_kittens —ivocat When he comes to our house, we make it a point to give him home-cooked meals as much as we can and get him out of the house and active. We just have very differing views on his well-being it seems. Lastly, they give him godawful haircuts. If we have a special occasion or if it’s truly ragamuffin, we will get it cut as we see fit. Of course the bonus is he is loved wherever he goes. We all have a mostly cordial relationship." —sunshine1024